I'm a soon to be stepmom of an adorable 3 year old boy. My future husbad has 50/50 shared custody. I've joined to find other stepmoms who might be able to offer adivce to some issues I am facing. Currently, I am the blame for my FH and the BM communication breakdown. She claimes I am writing all emails and therefore only wants to have a face to face meeting when it is convinent for her and has even told my FH that she has blocked all of his emails. He started to send certified letters instead. I think she is trying to make life difficult, and now the changes (me being in the picture) are causing her to have insecurities. My question is, how do we get around those insecurities? I have sat back and taken her verbal assults on my character for almost 8 months now and it's geting harder to bite my tongue.