My daughter turned 10 today. Over the summer my husband adopted her. We decided to keep things open with my ex. But in dec none of his family has tried to contact me. Now normally id let it go and just raise my daughter. The problem is my ex had another child the same age as dd and they spend a lot of time together over the summer. Dd had started bug me about her sister so I emailed everyone in his family a little email. No reply came so I emailed just my ex and his grandma. Basically saying if they choose to not contact dd that was fine but dd cares able her sister a lot and loosing contact with her would hurt dd the most. My ex and his grandma reponded and we talked it out now I'm getting consistant emails from them. His mom and I have never seen eye to eye she think I should just send dd to stay with her once a month and not start things slow. I was thinking about deleting all them from the fb page dd keeps for family reasons. It felt silly for them to watch her grow in pictures but not actually visit with her ever. I was waiting until after her birthday just to see if anything happened. The thing that happened was I got a random email from his mom wishing hhr a happy birthday and asking her about her summer swim schedule. I haven't heard from thoss lady since 8m ago about 2 wks before the adoption. (She didn't know about the a before because my ex didn't want to tell her. He said she took it very well though. ) she didn't comment on dds page or post anything about dds birthday only sent the email I want to nicely respond but still delete her from dds fb. My husband says no that I'm just driving the knife and not letting dd decide the contact dd would want with exs mom. I told him I'm going to respond nicely but still the matter stays the same she's not going to watch my kid grow without contact. She has ways of contacting dd if shys wants to use them but but deleting I'm eliminating the easy way out of getting to know dd. If she wants to know dd she should act like it and actually make contact. What shui you all think?
I promise to listen today.
on Feb. 13, 2013 at 11:40 PM