My SS is 24, lives with his mom and has a minimum wage job, dropped out of college. We see him less than once a month. DH pays his cell phone and carries him on his insurance,. Lately he has been going over his data plan which adds another $10 to his bill, plus he had an international long distance call on there for $7 this month. This made his cell bill this month $50. DH mentioned last month that he had gone over his data and he said he didn't know, he doesn't get notified. I know that is a lie because I have had it happen on my phone and you get like three texts before it has gone over saying it's about to happen.
DH glanced at the bill this month but didn't see his charges. Would you point them out? We have joint account paying bills but he makes a little more than me and he's always paid that cell bill. It annoys me that he and BM enable SS to be a slacker and I can't help but wonder how many more years we have of supporting him. He seems content and DH just wants to have a communicative relationship with him so he lets it go. DH is very, very defensive when it comes to anyone pointing out his kids shortcomings other than him. If I even seem to agree with him, he comes back with an excuse for their behavior after he is the one that brought it up.
I understand your frustation, but if this is something dh choses to do for his son, its not really your place to complain.
I think you could point this out without it being a criticism. Just tell DH that you were looking at the bill and wondering if you guys need to modify the plan(s). FWIW, some phones don't allow that notification message to go through. I know our iPhones do, but the kids' phones don't.
If SS is consistently going over, it may be less expensive to up the plan. Or, maybe SS needs to pay for the overages. Either way, I think it's reasonable when you're splitting bills to discuss how to lower them.
Yikes, 24 and living with his parents. I'm getting very nervous about the kids and growning up! Doesn't sound like too big of a deal, I may mention it to DH though, maybe he needs to bump up the minutes on your plan in general or get him his own account that SS will take over when he is able.
At 24 he should be paying his own bills. My 18 year old has had a phone for 2 years and pays for his own plan, oh sure once in a while he will fall short of the cash and we will help but we don't pay the bill every month. Unfortunately you need to let it go because until mommy and daddy stop taking care of him there really isn't anything you can do, this is their choice to do for their son.
not worth the drama or stress. I would let it go. $10 is nothing.
Did Dad ever set a limit on the cell phone bill? I'm not seeing the problem. Whether or not he went over the amount you want him to spend each month you still have major personal issues with him.
I would like to know what plan you have that makes your cell bill only $50?
I'm going to have a shirt made...
- Bertieb
on Feb. 14, 2013 at 10:57 AM