I am NOT a replacement parent...(mostly a vent) Edited w/ more info.
but BM seems to think so lately. DH can't do something? That's OK, (my name) can come in Dhs place. No, I can't. SD needs picked up and BM doesn't feel like it and DH is at work? That's OK, Bm calls me, and gets all mad when I don't just drop what I am doing and run to get SD.Sorry, I have my own life and kids, and I was at the eye Dr's, BTW. I am not DH's replacement!! I am really trying to be nice about this, and its getting really hard, DH isn't helping either...
The main issues are BM just dropping SD off when she notices my van in the drive, and/or not showing up for pick up at her own home or the designated spot, knowing that I am the only one home, or will usually be the one dropping off b/c DH is at work from 2p-10p, and SD gets off school at 2:30p.
I got the cops called on me shortly after posting this b/c BM was to be home to recieve SD, and I called several times with no answer, and waited 45 minutes then went home. DH was informed, and his calls weren't answered either, but he couldn't just leave work. 4 HOURS later, BM finally calls, and demands SD be brought. By this time, it is 9-9:15ish, and I told her she could come get SD, I had already put my younger 2 to bed, and couldn't leave. BM called the cops saying I refused her SD. When the cops came, the situation was explained, and BM was given 20 minutes to come get SD before they took her to the police station unless DH could leave work. BM showed up with attitude, and left. Between DH and I, we called BM 16 times in the 4 hours I still had SD. Turns out BM was at the mall, nothing important enough IMO to not get her child.
We, well I also had 3 instances of knocking on my door and it being SD just getting dropped off b/c BM was "in the area". BM lives about 15 minutes away, and normally never comes to our town as there generally isn't a reason.