NO, REALLY??? Is it really home or does NCP just think its home too? I am CP and I honestly kind of felt like BF home was DD home. Not according to her. She has been out of school since LAST Monday, 10 full days of school. She has an undetermined viral infection similar to mono and NOW has pneumonia and a head to toe rash. She is VERY sick and she was supposed to go to BF house yesterday. She refused...when I say refused I mean cried and wailed and begged him to not make her come. This is very out of character for her. I wasn't home, I spoke to BF after he talked to her. He called my cell at lunch. He says he told her she can hang out in her room and there and be yucky on his couch. He says she said "NO, I want to be in MY room at MY house with MY stuff and MY mom has been taking care of me and she is at OUR house."
She isn't contagious at this point. Just still very sickly and weak and very grumpy and mean. It would have been fine for her to go. I called her and I told her she could go that her dad misses her and wants to hang out with her even though she is sick. She said no I want to stay home. I told her "That is your home there too." She said "NO, it is NOT my home too. Places where I have to pack a bag to go to are not my home. I have a bed, that is it. I have to take everything, even a toothbrush and shampoo and conditioner. I have furniture and a closet that is full of SM clothes and crap, not MINE. Nothing there is mine, if I want my things I have to take it and I do not want to pack bags to take over there. I am tired and I hurt and all my stuff is here without packing."
He is kind of irate, but I think she has a good point. I actually prefer her to be here. I HAVE been taking care of her and I am way more tolerant of the pissy attitude she is carrying around right now than BF and SM would be. I wouldn't ever tell her or BF that though.
Should we have MADE her go or was I right to not push it harder? Should I discuss this with BF or keep my mouth shut? Would you NCP households want to know why the child doesn't feel your house is their home?