When you married a guy with kids, or moved in with a guy with your kids, or have a his-hers-ours situation or whatever...what did you expect?
This is not a bitchy post, just genuinely wondering.
Did you think it would be one happy family? Tough but doable?
Has it turned out like you expected?
Makes sense. Guess I'm just kind of shocked at how poorly most of these situations seems to be working out.
My ex is moving in with his gf (who the kids have never met) and I don't think she has a clue what she's getting into. She doesn't have kids of her own.
Quoting Dana333810:I feel that every one's situation is different, and cannot exactly fall into those specific categories. Kwim??
Does he have the kids 50/50?
How old are the kids?
Quoting Lurion:
Makes sense. Guess I'm just kind of shocked at how poorly most of these situations seems to be working out.
My ex is moving in with his gf (who the kids have never met) and I don't think she has a clue what she's getting into. She doesn't have kids of her own.
Quoting Dana333810:I feel that every one's situation is different, and cannot exactly fall into those specific categories. Kwim??
Welp, then that is her choice....She has to learn what it's like on her own. After she gets the gist of it, she will either go one of two ways. She'll be able to adjust and stick it out, or she will fail and bail. It's as simple as that. I really wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you. It's one of those "live and learn" lessons. You know?
Quoting Lurion:
Makes sense. Guess I'm just kind of shocked at how poorly most of these situations seems to be working out.
My ex is moving in with his gf (who the kids have never met) and I don't think she has a clue what she's getting into. She doesn't have kids of her own.
Quoting Dana333810:
I feel that every one's situation is different, and cannot exactly fall into those specific categories. Kwim??
Being that I was a child of a couple blended families from before I can even remember (parents divorced when I was 18 months old) I knew that it would have it's challenges and that there would be really difficult times. I also knew that I was strong enough to do it and that if two people really wanted to be together, they could make it through it.
I didn't expect drama or for a mother to give up her child, but I learned long ago that I will never understand the choices and decisions bm makes.
It's been quit an education!
Totally agree!!! Honest to God, had I seen CM before divorcing, I may have reconsidered leaving my ex. I had no idea what was going on out there. And now my own kids are in this situation. :(
Quoting dukegirl01:
I guess I didn't really know what to expect. Call me dumb, but I actually grew up not knowing anyone in a blended family. I still don't! Only here. It is even harder when you have no friend of any kind in a similar situation, to share anything with, to be able to vent.....that's why I came here.
It's been quit an education!
I expected one happy family and it will be 7 years of marriage in a few months and it is exactly that, plus SS. We have ours children and SS is from a previous relationship of DH's.
Step kids and extracurriculars
- Lurion
on Feb. 16, 2013 at 9:51 PM