So many step parents these days bitch and complain about their Skids. Let me ask you a question, when you and your DH got together did either of you have kids from PR's? Right then and there was all up to you, cut your losses and walk or realize this is a package deal when you got together. When my DH and I got together I told him straight up that my child was the most important thing in the world to me. That he has to treat my child as though he would treat his own and he told me that the same went for his son. Things with his son and I started of rocky but we worked on things and we got through it (SS just turned 5). Almost 3 years later if you ask my SS he will tell you that I am his mother not his step mom. We got through it because as a family when things got rough we'd all sit down and talk about it, listen and figure out a way to fix things. He told me 1 day that he felt that it was my fault that him in his mommy work together anymore. That was a hard one to deal with but a yr and half later everything is great! If you ask him today he will tell you that he loves me with all his heart and soul and that I am NOT his SM I am his mommy. I have done more for my SS in 3yrs then his BM has ever done in 8yrs (he is 8). There was even the day I overheard him talking to 1 of his friends his friend said that he hated his SM because she made his life so miserable my SS said that he love me with all his heart and soul if it weren't for me then he wouldn't know what a mommy was. He also told him about how he does not think of me as a stepmom and he thinks of me as his mom. But the 1 that broke my heart most was when he started crying because he overheard me talking to somebody mentioning how he was my SS. He was so heartbroken by that comment literally broke my heart I love my stepson with all my heart and I am so glad he feels the way he feels about me! We should want our SKs to trust us, love us and want us to be therefor them always. Figure out a way to work through it together as a family, one thing we did was we got all of our family together to help him understand everything that was happening and going on, no one ever bashed on BM in front of or around him but no one really talked about her either (no one knows much since she has gone off the ban wagon) but with the support and love of his whole family we came through!!! Try your hardest as a family everyone and make it work!!!
on Feb. 17, 2013 at 1:44 AM