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We are told to "give up" . *Updated)

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Updated:  Courts open today.  There is no papers submitted and they said its "Parental Kiddnapping"   and get a attorney.   After 5 police stations not doing anything.. where do you start.?  What a nightmare.

I have posted a couple of times about SD who just turned 17.    Before Anyone says anything about her right to "choose" where she wants to live.   Again.. not in the state with the court we deal with.  They changed their laws because of kids going back and forth.       Their laws state that change cannot take place as long as child support is exchanged.    Well when we got custody DH never requested CS.  (loop hole?)

Our situatution SD begged to live with us.  BM was never around, didnt take care of kids etc.  We did what SD wanted.. we paid the court costs then school costs to transfer (that state also charges school fees), paid probation costs (smoking pot) to get her out of the state.

So after getting custody BM didnt have time for her.  Picked her up a couple times but dropped her off at friends, sisters boys etc.    I have sat with this child crying over her mom never seeing her when she goes to visit .. BM always had a new flame and didnt have time for her.   Said this before.. no birthday gifts, no christmas gifts  but BM picked her up at 8pm on Christmas and took her back dropping her with sisters and leaving.      So we found out SD spent the night at a boys.  DH took her phone, grounded her. 

BM was sneaking up while we were gone and was going to take her.   OSD (21) got involved and told BM she cant do that.   SD spent the last weekend in that state with the 21 year old and the BM come and took her.   (dropped her at the boys house)

This past weekend we let SD go to a concert with a friend from school and the father.   Never came home.  When DH texted SD the BM texted from her phone saying she was with her.  Come to find out a boy picked her up from the concert and shes been with him ever since.  BM just covering for her.  We called police both states.. take up with the court.   They are closed.    BM texted last night saying SD17 not coming back to our state she has custody papers and a restraining order?    OSD says the BM is lying.   We had out state and their state run a check ... nothing.   

BM lives in one city, boy lives in another, sisters in another.  Even if DH tried to find her have no clue where she is.. assuming at BF's.   

Do we wait to see if papers arrive?  Do you try to pick her up??   We dont know what to do.  Now all 3 sisters are saying she is missing and not with the BM.   No one knows where she is except the BM who is at work.

by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 10:34 AM
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Birdseed
by Platinum Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 3:20 PM

Again, I'm so sorry that your husband and you and everyone...are going through this.  What a hard situation.

I can only hope we never get into that position and that if we did, someone would try to help us.


tiredmama42
by Silver Member on Feb. 21, 2013 at 3:32 PM

 Thank you.. Since Friday we have barely slept, sick to stomaches.. my DS is very upset misses her.. it is hard.  Have a sherriff coming to the house again but I am not hopeful at this point.   If DH would agree to let her sleep at the BF's house like the Bm does we wouldnt be going through any of this.  My DD is 19 now but I didnt allow sleepovers with boys.. most parents dont.  She broke up with one boy in our state 1-18 and on 1-19 was sleeping at the other boys house.  Its not like they have been together along time. 


Quoting Birdseed:

Again, I'm so sorry that your husband and you and everyone...are going through this.  What a hard situation.

I can only hope we never get into that position and that if we did, someone would try to help us.

 


 

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