If you're a SM, do you call your steps at the other parent's home and chat? If you're the BM, would that bother you?
I am not in the habit of calling the SKIDS on my own on any kind of regular basis when they're at Mom's. When we had them 50/50, I did talk them most days after school about dinner or schedules or where to pick them up, but those were more "business" talks.
Now that we've moved and are NCP, I get to talk to them almost every day via Skype or Face Time when they're on with Dad but for the most part, I try to give him/them their space and privacy on those calls too. I say hi, maybe we talk about something at school or here, but it's pretty brief.
Well, Dad went home to spend the holiday weekend with the kids and celebrate eldest SD's bday. I was online early so I FB messaged her Happy Birthday. But it was too early to call. Then I got tied up with a bunch of other stuff. Talked to DH a little bit ago after he dropped the kids off and was heading to the airport and he asked if I was planning to call SD to wish her Happy Birthday.
Honestly, I wasn't. Not now that she's back at BM's. I don't want to interrupt their dinner/bday stuff. I kind of thought I'd skype/face time with them while Dad was with them, but like I said, I got tied up on the phone trying to handle some financial things and then spent 3 hours on the road trying to take care of stuff. So it just never happened.
I think I WILL call SD. Because it's her bday afterall. I don't think she'd be sad if I didn't. She's a big tough teenager and she and I don't have the closest relationship. But it's her bday.
So. If you're a SP, do you call the kids on your own? If you're the BP, would it bother you if the SP called? The last thing I want to do right now while so many things are kind of up in the air is disappoint the kiddo or piss of the momma.