I posted about this topic awhile ago but the subject came up again and we came to somewhat of an agreement, but there are a few holes. BM hesitantly agreed to take the younger two kids during the day when DH and I are working but wants to put OSD in some sort of childcare during that time. The issue with that is that OSD is autistic and I do not know of any programs that is equipped to handle her that will not cost an arm and a leg and DH will only go for it if BM pays half, which she will not be able to afford. Also, BM wants me to pick up the kids right after I get home from work around 3:30 since I get off before DH. I don't really mind doing that most days but sometimes I would like a little time to myself after work. What do others do during the summer for childcare with older kids (9 and 11) or special needs kids when the parents are working in the day? Any ideas on how to make this work?