She is not close to her family. Her BM is dead, she is estranged from her BD and SM, she only really talks to her gramma regularly. She isn't close to her twin sister and doesn't see her full bio brother often.
SO has a large family. She was close to them. Unfortunately, their divorce was pretty dramatic and ugly and most of SO 's family wanted nothing more to do w her.
Awhile back, she talked to SO about her oldest son, who is not SO's bio son, but he raised him from a baby until 11. When they initially split, she didnt want SO to see him any more so there was really nothing for SO to say. Time we t by and things settled and became civil. She asked SO if he would still want a relationship w her son and of course he said yes. She let him start coming over w the skids. Of course sometimes she says no and SO just says ok, he has no rights, we leave it up to her.
Well. Lately there has been A LOT of family parties w SO's extended family. Ex ss came to a few. Then she found out that SO's other BM (BM1) had been at one (because it was for HER daughters babies b day party) and was put out that BM1 was allowed over. (Dynamics are TOTALLY different there, BM1 and BM2 NEVER got along and I have never had any issue w BM1, by the time I came along 2 of their kids were grown, and SO had custody of their youngest and was letting her see sd. BM1 was not over SO when BM2 came along and was mad about that, and they were in and put of court over the older kids and BM2 would involve herself in their drama, and when SO initially got custody of sd, he wouldn't let BM1 come around because she was on drugs. BM1 is clean and I've never had any issues w her. BM2 was still in court w SO early in our relationship and dramatic w him which made me stay the hell away from her. I stay out of their business as much as I can. Sorry for long aside)
Then BM found out about my baby shower and wanted to come, but SO told her that was kinda inappropriate.
Now she has been sending her son over less. He wants to come. I think she feels left out. I feel bad for her. But we don't talk. I have softened toward her a lot but really we don't talk other than hi and bye.
I know she can do whatever she wants w her kid. I just don't know what to do or think.