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Full Face Makeup on a 12 year old

Posted by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 12:43 AM
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Question: Is full face makeup with bright red lipstick and black eyeliner appropriate on a 12 year old at a school function?

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DH's sister has a picture with her and my SD's makeup looks slutty.  I guess she wants to upset DH.  He doesn't like it at all!  He also told his sister and ex-wife that she was to young to wear it like that. 

by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 12:43 AM
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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:46 AM
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Personally, yes I agree it is inappropriate and my child knows she is not allowed to wear eye liner or lip stick unless it's for play at home or for dance recital. She is almost 12. It is against our rules. However, I do allow some make up but she rarely wears it. I allow clear mascara and I allow neutral eye shadow and light pink lip gloss or Chapstick. I took this opportunity to teach my daughter about appropriate make up. How to apply it, how not to apply it, what colors go well with seasons and outfits and times of day. Fortunately, I don't have the issue from the other home. They are anti make up so even the little bit that I allow at my home is too much for their home. We tend to Parent, what happens at my house is my business and what happens at his house is his business. My daughter knows what my rules are and she knows there will be consequences for rules broken even if she is with her other parent. I find out she is putting on red lipstick when she knows it's not ok, she will be in trouble. Her dad doesn't say she can't wear make up he just doesn't allow her to wear it at his house. If he told her she would suffer consequences for wearing it at my house, I would probably scale back and not allow her to wear it so that she didn't get in to trouble over there.

This is the age where girls are starting to want to wear make up and fix their own hair etc etc. she is trying to find herself through these girlie things. I would take the opportunity to teach her what is appropriate rather than ban it because I have found that when you try to ban things completely is when teens learn to hide and lie. Especially if the other home is ok with it.
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dallascowboys82
by Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:48 AM
I would have to see a picture to really give a answer. And why is dh sister doing SD make up? Sorry I am a little confessed?
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krazykiddles
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:50 AM

I couldn't believe that DH's sister thought this looked good on her!  It makes her look like a racoon around the eyes (just like her Aunt wears it).  I am a Skin Care professional so I know tricks and trades that will make her look amazing without thick lines and very dark colors. Her aunt posted the picture on FB for everyone to see.  I am just going to let DH take care of it and if SD asks me directly for help then I will, but not until.  I have adopted the not my child not my problem attitude.

Quoting momof2ex1:

Personally, yes I agree it is inappropriate and my child knows she is not allowed to wear eye liner or lip stick unless it's for play at home or for dance recital. She is almost 12. It is against our rules. However, I do allow some make up but she rarely wears it. I allow clear mascara and I allow neutral eye shadow and light pink lip gloss or Chapstick. I took this opportunity to teach my daughter about appropriate make up. How to apply it, how not to apply it, what colors go well with seasons and outfits and times of day. Fortunately, I don't have the issue from the other home. They are anti make up so even the little bit that I allow at my home is too much for their home. We tend to Parent, what happens at my house is my business and what happens at his house is his business. My daughter knows what my rules are and she knows there will be consequences for rules broken even if she is with her other parent. I find out she is putting on red lipstick when she knows it's not ok, she will be in trouble. Her dad doesn't say she can't wear make up he just doesn't allow her to wear it at his house. If he told her she would suffer consequences for wearing it at my house, I would probably scale back and not allow her to wear it so that she didn't get in to trouble over there.

This is the age where girls are starting to want to wear make up and fix their own hair etc etc. she is trying to find herself through these girlie things. I would take the opportunity to teach her what is appropriate rather than ban it because I have found that when you try to ban things completely is when teens learn to hide and lie. Especially if the other home is ok with it.


AnnaNonamus
by Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:51 AM

This was taken on this girls 13th birthday. This is a full face of makeup.

krazykiddles
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:57 AM

The aunt has become F)88p buddies with DH's ex-wife.  She thinks she is more of a parent than DH.  She and his ex moved and enrolled SD in another school without even discussing it with DH.  I am not friends with her on FB so I can't share the picture. 

Quoting dallascowboys82:

I would have to see a picture to really give a answer. And why is dh sister doing SD make up? Sorry I am a little confessed?


krazykiddles
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:57 AM

Put thicker back lines around the eyes and fake eyelashes. 

Quoting AnnaNonamus:

This was taken on this girls 13th birthday. This is a full face of makeup.


momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:58 AM
I tend to be the type of person, even before I was divorced that there are gender topics that belong to the gender specific parent. Unless the opposite sex parent is OK or has no choice. Like my husband is so excited that he doesn't have a daughter. He does not want to have the period or sex talk with a girl. I'm ok with having that talk with my son I can do it. But with girls, I remember the awkward tween years and my dad. Oh my dad. I just wanted him to stop!! I was so embarrassed when he was trying to ask me if I wore a bra yet lol no he didn't know. He was less than an EOW dad so he wasn't sure. Then the condom talk. I didn't even get the sex talk but he wondered if I needed condoms. Then the tampon talk. That was me. I went to him. Dad I'm a cheerleader. I need tampons. He was mortified. And he refused. I had to bribe my friends mom to buy me some until I could get back to my mom's. (I lived with my dad from 11-13).

So obviously, I would expect that with an active mom, the make up talk would be left to her. I appreciated that since I wasn't consulted on the sex and the period talk that I was allowed the shaving and the make up talk. I wonder if you are more sensitive to how it looks because of your profession. I was a dental assistant and had my RDA. So I tend to be critical of mouths. Where others may not even notice.

Was this picture just a 'dress up' picture? Bc we have days where we play with make up. Especially when we are getting ready for recital day. We use all kinds of stuff dd normally isn't allowed to wear and I've taken pictures. She wouldn't go to dinner or school like that. But she might wear it around the house.


Quoting krazykiddles:

I couldn't believe that DH's sister thought this looked good on her!  It makes her look like a racoon around the eyes (just like her Aunt wears it).  I am a Skin Care professional so I know tricks and trades that will make her look amazing without thick lines and very dark colors. Her aunt posted the picture on FB for everyone to see.  I am just going to let DH take care of it and if SD asks me directly for help then I will, but not until.  I have adopted the not my child not my problem attitude.

Quoting momof2ex1:

Personally, yes I agree it is inappropriate and my child knows she is not allowed to wear eye liner or lip stick unless it's for play at home or for dance recital. She is almost 12. It is against our rules. However, I do allow some make up but she rarely wears it. I allow clear mascara and I allow neutral eye shadow and light pink lip gloss or Chapstick. I took this opportunity to teach my daughter about appropriate make up. How to apply it, how not to apply it, what colors go well with seasons and outfits and times of day. Fortunately, I don't have the issue from the other home. They are anti make up so even the little bit that I allow at my home is too much for their home. We tend to Parent, what happens at my house is my business and what happens at his house is his business. My daughter knows what my rules are and she knows there will be consequences for rules broken even if she is with her other parent. I find out she is putting on red lipstick when she knows it's not ok, she will be in trouble. Her dad doesn't say she can't wear make up he just doesn't allow her to wear it at his house. If he told her she would suffer consequences for wearing it at my house, I would probably scale back and not allow her to wear it so that she didn't get in to trouble over there.



This is the age where girls are starting to want to wear make up and fix their own hair etc etc. she is trying to find herself through these girlie things. I would take the opportunity to teach her what is appropriate rather than ban it because I have found that when you try to ban things completely is when teens learn to hide and lie. Especially if the other home is ok with it.



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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 2:00 AM
My dd goes to school with 11 year olds that look like this. Not kidding.


Quoting krazykiddles:

Put thicker back lines around the eyes and fake eyelashes. 

Quoting AnnaNonamus:

This was taken on this girls 13th birthday. This is a full face of makeup.



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krazykiddles
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 2:03 AM

This was at a school activity.  My profession has nothing to do with this.  It really makes her look awful.  DH and I have a joint FB account and friends of DH told us their concerns also.  I feel bad for SD. 

Quoting momof2ex1:

I tend to be the type of person, even before I was divorced that there are gender topics that belong to the gender specific parent. Unless the opposite sex parent is OK or has no choice. Like my husband is so excited that he doesn't have a daughter. He does not want to have the period or sex talk with a girl. I'm ok with having that talk with my son I can do it. But with girls, I remember the awkward tween years and my dad. Oh my dad. I just wanted him to stop!! I was so embarrassed when he was trying to ask me if I wore a bra yet lol no he didn't know. He was less than an EOW dad so he wasn't sure. Then the condom talk. I didn't even get the sex talk but he wondered if I needed condoms. Then the tampon talk. That was me. I went to him. Dad I'm a cheerleader. I need tampons. He was mortified. And he refused. I had to bribe my friends mom to buy me some until I could get back to my mom's. (I lived with my dad from 11-13).

So obviously, I would expect that with an active mom, the make up talk would be left to her. I appreciated that since I wasn't consulted on the sex and the period talk that I was allowed the shaving and the make up talk. I wonder if you are more sensitive to how it looks because of your profession. I was a dental assistant and had my RDA. So I tend to be critical of mouths. Where others may not even notice.

Was this picture just a 'dress up' picture? Bc we have days where we play with make up. Especially when we are getting ready for recital day. We use all kinds of stuff dd normally isn't allowed to wear and I've taken pictures. She wouldn't go to dinner or school like that. But she might wear it around the house.


Quoting krazykiddles:

I couldn't believe that DH's sister thought this looked good on her!  It makes her look like a racoon around the eyes (just like her Aunt wears it).  I am a Skin Care professional so I know tricks and trades that will make her look amazing without thick lines and very dark colors. Her aunt posted the picture on FB for everyone to see.  I am just going to let DH take care of it and if SD asks me directly for help then I will, but not until.  I have adopted the not my child not my problem attitude.

Quoting momof2ex1:

Personally, yes I agree it is inappropriate and my child knows she is not allowed to wear eye liner or lip stick unless it's for play at home or for dance recital. She is almost 12. It is against our rules. However, I do allow some make up but she rarely wears it. I allow clear mascara and I allow neutral eye shadow and light pink lip gloss or Chapstick. I took this opportunity to teach my daughter about appropriate make up. How to apply it, how not to apply it, what colors go well with seasons and outfits and times of day. Fortunately, I don't have the issue from the other home. They are anti make up so even the little bit that I allow at my home is too much for their home. We tend to Parent, what happens at my house is my business and what happens at his house is his business. My daughter knows what my rules are and she knows there will be consequences for rules broken even if she is with her other parent. I find out she is putting on red lipstick when she knows it's not ok, she will be in trouble. Her dad doesn't say she can't wear make up he just doesn't allow her to wear it at his house. If he told her she would suffer consequences for wearing it at my house, I would probably scale back and not allow her to wear it so that she didn't get in to trouble over there.



This is the age where girls are starting to want to wear make up and fix their own hair etc etc. she is trying to find herself through these girlie things. I would take the opportunity to teach her what is appropriate rather than ban it because I have found that when you try to ban things completely is when teens learn to hide and lie. Especially if the other home is ok with it.




momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 2:16 AM
Well I was just trying to be open minded. Didn't mean to offend. If its a problem then your husband should talk to his child about it.


Quoting krazykiddles:

This was at a school activity.  My profession has nothing to do with this.  It really makes her look awful.  DH and I have a joint FB account and friends of DH told us their concerns also.  I feel bad for SD. 

Quoting momof2ex1:

I tend to be the type of person, even before I was divorced that there are gender topics that belong to the gender specific parent. Unless the opposite sex parent is OK or has no choice. Like my husband is so excited that he doesn't have a daughter. He does not want to have the period or sex talk with a girl. I'm ok with having that talk with my son I can do it. But with girls, I remember the awkward tween years and my dad. Oh my dad. I just wanted him to stop!! I was so embarrassed when he was trying to ask me if I wore a bra yet lol no he didn't know. He was less than an EOW dad so he wasn't sure. Then the condom talk. I didn't even get the sex talk but he wondered if I needed condoms. Then the tampon talk. That was me. I went to him. Dad I'm a cheerleader. I need tampons. He was mortified. And he refused. I had to bribe my friends mom to buy me some until I could get back to my mom's. (I lived with my dad from 11-13).



So obviously, I would expect that with an active mom, the make up talk would be left to her. I appreciated that since I wasn't consulted on the sex and the period talk that I was allowed the shaving and the make up talk. I wonder if you are more sensitive to how it looks because of your profession. I was a dental assistant and had my RDA. So I tend to be critical of mouths. Where others may not even notice.



Was this picture just a 'dress up' picture? Bc we have days where we play with make up. Especially when we are getting ready for recital day. We use all kinds of stuff dd normally isn't allowed to wear and I've taken pictures. She wouldn't go to dinner or school like that. But she might wear it around the house.





Quoting krazykiddles:

I couldn't believe that DH's sister thought this looked good on her!  It makes her look like a racoon around the eyes (just like her Aunt wears it).  I am a Skin Care professional so I know tricks and trades that will make her look amazing without thick lines and very dark colors. Her aunt posted the picture on FB for everyone to see.  I am just going to let DH take care of it and if SD asks me directly for help then I will, but not until.  I have adopted the not my child not my problem attitude.

Quoting momof2ex1:

Personally, yes I agree it is inappropriate and my child knows she is not allowed to wear eye liner or lip stick unless it's for play at home or for dance recital. She is almost 12. It is against our rules. However, I do allow some make up but she rarely wears it. I allow clear mascara and I allow neutral eye shadow and light pink lip gloss or Chapstick. I took this opportunity to teach my daughter about appropriate make up. How to apply it, how not to apply it, what colors go well with seasons and outfits and times of day. Fortunately, I don't have the issue from the other home. They are anti make up so even the little bit that I allow at my home is too much for their home. We tend to Parent, what happens at my house is my business and what happens at his house is his business. My daughter knows what my rules are and she knows there will be consequences for rules broken even if she is with her other parent. I find out she is putting on red lipstick when she knows it's not ok, she will be in trouble. Her dad doesn't say she can't wear make up he just doesn't allow her to wear it at his house. If he told her she would suffer consequences for wearing it at my house, I would probably scale back and not allow her to wear it so that she didn't get in to trouble over there.





This is the age where girls are starting to want to wear make up and fix their own hair etc etc. she is trying to find herself through these girlie things. I would take the opportunity to teach her what is appropriate rather than ban it because I have found that when you try to ban things completely is when teens learn to hide and lie. Especially if the other home is ok with it.






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