Wow. DH needs to bring this issue with the 'daddy' name up with BM. Ask her if she would be okay with you being called 'mom'?
Explain that BM is still looking for that special someone and it takes some people more time to find them than others. I would explain to SD that some relationships take more work than others and sometimes it is too much work for the two people to handle.
Quoting SassyMom25:Wow. DH needs to bring this issue with the 'daddy' name up with BM. Ask her if she would be okay with you being called 'mom'?
Explain that BM is still looking for that special someone and it takes some people more time to find them than others. I would explain to SD that some relationships take more work than others and sometimes it is too much work for the two people to handle.
It's BM's stepbrother?
That's the part I can't get past.
Did they grow up together or is it a step-brother she gained once she was an adult?
Is her own parent ok with this?!?!
Quoting andie646c:It's BM's stepbrother?
That's the part I can't get past.
Did they grow up together or is it a step-brother she gained once she was an adult?
Is her own parent ok with this?!?!
Wow...
SD has had a lot of "uncles", she's starting to realize that BM doesn't have any brothers. It was pretty creepy when she'd walk around telling people, "BM is gonna marry uncle P." And then, "BM divorced uncle P and is gonna marry uncle J now."
Good luck with it all.
Quoting Tinkerbellmama:Wow...
SD has had a lot of "uncles", she's starting to realize that BM doesn't have any brothers. It was pretty creepy when she'd walk around telling people, "BM is gonna marry uncle P." And then, "BM divorced uncle P and is gonna marry uncle J now."Good luck with it all.
you are creating your own shit by even knowing about this....
Quoting baparrot2:you are creating your own shit by even knowing about this....
you just gotta let it go. In one ear and out the other. Who cares what BM does? She won't do that much damage to SD's value systems in the little amount of time she sees her.
Quoting mamaBerg85:
I'm not really sure how I mean bm v says this shit to us.
Quoting baparrot2:you are creating your own shit by even knowing about this....
I'm not so much worried about messing up SD's values and DH is. I know that him and I are pretty much in control of that because she sees us more. I'm more worried about BM being engaged to her step brother because even if they break up they are still together SD still has to be around this man during visits. The same man that threated my husband to kick his ass and take my SD away because DH "doesn't know how to disapline the autism out of SD" Yes he said this while he was drunk but that doesn't mean he couldn't harm SD. I wish I could convince DH to do something about this. I'm not sure what exactly but I'm scared for SD to be around BMs boyfriend/step brother. I mean like physically scared not because it will mess up her morals but because I don't know what disapline the autism out of her means.
Quoting Polkadotted:you just gotta let it go. In one ear and out the other. Who cares what BM does? She won't do that much damage to SD's value systems in the little amount of time she sees her.
Quoting mamaBerg85:
I'm not really sure how I mean bm v says this shit to us.
Quoting baparrot2:you are creating your own shit by even knowing about this....
Chores- how much is too much.
- mamaBerg85
on Feb. 23, 2013 at 9:27 PM