Not really a SM or a BM question as I'm sure either are just as susceptible. Anyone have a kid hellbent on denying their sibling any attention?
SD is this way lately, and she's also heaping loads of victim attitude into the mix. She and I spend a significant amount of time together one-on-one due to the horses and her HW. She gets my undivided attention often. SS does not. There are few times when it's just he and I, and invariably SD attempts to insert herself. If I'm helping him with HW, she's interrupting. If I'm playing ball with him trying to work on a certain skill, she's ready to jump in there, runs her mouth if she can't, and will actually make a point of knocking his ball away with her own ("accidentally", of course) until firmly told to leave. This came to head over the weekend while assistant coaching SS's team. SD felt entitled to be on the field and threw an absolute hissy when told to take a seat on the side line.
It's relentless. Huge boundary issue, but I'm at a total loss how to address it without furthing the "woe is me" state of mind she's in. She's crying that I'm moody and mistreating her lately simply for ousting her from SS's business. There's not a move I can make that isn't somehow about her, and it's seriously getting on my nerves. Do I just ignore this and keeping doing what I do? Confront her and let her cry it out?
Tell me it's a phase!
DH opined that it's possible she does this because SS gets 99% of the attention with BM, so she's claiming territory with me since she's used to having so much of my attention. But good God almighty, it has to stop.