I have been a step mom for about 10 years now and to be perfectly honest, I am done stick a fork in me and you might even say I am well done. This has been the hardest and most heart wrenching task I have ever gotten myself into. My dh has 3 children and I have 2, thus the blended family. 4 are away in college and we have just one more left in HS. Needless to say, I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. My biggest problem is that now with the last one left at home, I have just given up the fight to be the step mom that was actively participating and encouraging all members in the household to care about anything for that matter. Not to mention that this kid is the youngest and of course the baby and neither my dh and his bm really gave him any sense of responsibility, In as much as I tried, I have failed. He is now 16 years old and although I had a ten year stretch to try to influence this kid, It just did not happen and I am done. I guess I need some words of encouragement or just some honest response on how to deal with my antipathy.