My step kids lost their mom in a freak accident. I met their dad 6 months later and we married rather quickly. Sometimes it feels like she is someone I have to live up to. She and I worked together but weren't friends. Fourteen years later, I still feel like I'm dragging her along with us. I "inherited" all her housewares, furniture, etc. All the kids are out of the house and I am constantly trying to get them to take her belongings. It's hard because some of the items have sentimental value to my husband...I just wish I could say "she doesn't live here!"