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I tutor nursing and premed students at a Big 10 university in biological sciences. Mostly pathophysiology, anatomy, pharmacology, etc. HIgher level, just before they have to apply to their nursing or med programs or once they're in.
First of all, love it! I love teaching and I love the subject matter so it's a great way for me to use my degree and keep a foot in the field.
I wonder if parents realize that a lot of what they've done through middle school, high school and now colllege as far as being somewhat overly involved, has actually been detrimental to their kids?
This is my 6th year tutoring one class with the same prof--pathophys.
I have had quite an interesting variety of students. But one thing that has been pretty consistent in the kids who really struggle is that they've got very very involved parents. Like...the parents call me and want to talk about their kids' needs. I do a pretty thorough intro session at no charge with kids at the beginning to learn about their challenges, strengths, study habits, etc. But no joke, they hand my number off to their folks who happily rattle off all of their thoughts on their kiddo. Who is typically a sophomore or above in college!
I am starting to think that all the parental involvement in MS and HS as far as homework, studying, and even talking to teachers might actually be more detrimental than helpful once the kids move on to college. THey don't feel like they can talk to a prof themselves. They look for excuses. They have an inflated sense of self with regards to their abilities/intellect. They don't know how to manage their time without a Mom or Dad over their shoulder.
These kids are just a few years away from the workforce but they're relying on Mom and Dad SO MUCH!
Do you think that YOU might be "overparenting"? Is that possible?