Things a potential SM and DH/BF should discuss PRIOR to marriage?
A lot of times, I think that people don't discuss parenting styles or house rules or expectations prior to living together or getting married and then find conflict.
I read a lot of books and even went to a counselor specilizing in blended families before (now) DH and I got married. But as a childless adult woman, there were a lot of things I never even thought to discuss with DH ahead of time. I think that had we discussed things before they came up, we could've avoided some blow ups and a lot of frustration.
But even with reading the books and going to the counseling, it seemed like we were/are always dealing with issues as they arise rather than proactively discussing how we want to handle things.
So...for discussion, what kinds of things would you encourage a couple with kids/steps to discuss prior to living together/marrying?
Off the top of my head, I think about stuff like:
-What are your house rules?
-How are they enforced? (or are they?)
-What are your expectations of me as a SM when it comes to the kids?
There are so many potential questions to ask and discuss.
What kinds of things do you wish you would've asked or discussed and worked out?