How many times do we read how the SK's are treating SM horrible? Just about every post states this. I would say that the majority of the problems with SK's descends from BD not stepping up and being the Dad. It seems like most Dad's want to leave the discipline to the SM's and this is one of the most unhealthy things you can do if you want to create happy household. Why the heck does this happen? Is it because the BD's are lazy? Is it because BD's only want to be the good guy? Is it because BD's just don't know how to handle these types of issue's? Or is it the SM's fault? In a way I can see where it would be our fault. First woman are nurturers, second we usually take care of the household and third because we as women tend to take control when things start to go south. I have done this and I completely regret it. So this is my question.....when it comes right down to it, are SM's to blame for BD's not stepping up? What are your thoughts?