BM is mad because I carry SD on my (our) insurance. Wish I was kidding!
BM called DH last night and basically told him that her job is laying off & reorganizing in the coming 2-4 months. While her position "should" be safe, she will be losing benefits. Therefore, SD16 will no longer have insurance. No problem, DH told her...we already have her covered. We told her this 2 years ago (even gave her insurance cards) but she insisted that SHE should be the one to carry her. In one ear and OUT the other. We kept SD on ours. So, all this time, SD has had dual-coverage. It doesn't cost us any more money to have her on OR off our policy.
She began to tell DH how he needed to start shopping for insurance soon and which doctors to choose. He told her (again) that SD was already covered and she got frazzled. All I heard him say was, "what difference does it make? She HAS insurance, end of story. It doesn't matter WHOSE policy it is!"
Come to find out, she got beside herself because I happen to carry the family on MY company's package. Somehow, she thinks that my & DH's money is not blended, and that HE should be the one paying for SD's insurance - not ME. Really?
I talked to BM this morning and she told me she couldn't talk until this evening. But she did manage to say to me, "I just think SD is DH's responsibility, not yours." To which I replied, "so where is this line of thinking when I'm transporting, feeding, paying for XYZ and all of the above? Don't be silly, girl." That's when she said she will call me later. We didn't argue and we even laughed about it, but I need to understand "what difference does it make? I'm her SM and I do all the things that BM/DH do for her when they can't." Our money is OUR money - we don't have a separate SD account or a separare DS account. Both kids get provided for out of the SAME pot.
Did I miss something?