Yesterday my stepdad came to me and asked me why my daughter wasnt in religion. She should be making her communion, but I never put her in. Im not religious at all, even though the rest of my family is...ESPECIALLY my stepdad.
He asked my to please please please put her in. He said that in the 20 years he has known me, he has never said no to me for anything and would I please just do this one thing for him. I said yes, partly for him and partly because my daughter wants to go.
He went on to tell me that he would pay for everything and do everything surrounding it. He would throw her a kick ass communion party and buy her the most beautiful white dress. Anything she wants, he will give to her.
Then he said that when my sister and I were younger, there were so many things he wanted for us but could never do because he never had a say in anything. And he never tried to. Now that we have kids and he is Papa (no first name, not a "step" to them), he wants to give them what he couldnt give to us.
Even as a stepmom now, I never really thought about his step journey. Our convo made me realize that we have a lot in common. Mostly, that we foot the bill for a lot, but really have no say in what goes on. And how stressful that can be sometimes.
Does anybody else ever feel this way? Its not something I think about on a daily basis, or often at all really. But my convo with him last night made me wonder how common this is.