So We are having a problem with our step-daughter.
Her mother is the kind who moved around time and time again without ever telling us. We would have to hunt her down to see her. My husband has always paid child support. It was done through the state because he didn't even know about her till she was 4. It was from a one night stand. The last time we lost touch it was when she moved without telling us she moved to another state. While she was there she divorced and remarried and moved back to the town where she had lived before. Which is still 60 miles away. When finally someone we knew called and told us they had run into my step daughter.
When we went down there we took a package of cards and pictures and letters for her we had saved. She threw it back at my husband and said to go away his daughter didn't want anything to do with him ever again. And if she did then SHE would contact him.
A little later she found me on Facebook and we got reconnected. After a few months she asked for a Cell phone we agreed so long as she make weekly calls to either her dad or her sisters (mine and his kids). She agreed. After christmas she said She wanted a new phone a better phone which was 300 even with a two year contract. But since we had just gotten her phone we said no because we would have to pay full price. We said no (I won't even spend that much on MY phone). The phone calls went down to once every two weeks and texting.
Then after christmas she told us Her phone was broken so we told her we would come get it and get it fixed or get a new one since we paid insurance on it. She said noooo thats okay. and she began texting less. She got herself a new phone. Then she asked us for money for a school trip. So we sent her $50. Then she asked for $100 for pictures (with 2 days notice) we said no because when she came up for spring break the following week we were going to have pictures done. Including some of just her. Even less texting. She then asked for money for her prom Dress. She needed the money in 5 days. $600 in 5 days. We said no. We just didn't have it. The calls stopped. And she would only Text. She asked if her little sisters (7 and 8) could spend the weekend with her. 60 miles away and her mother HATES my husband. Absolutely despises my husband. I told her no they were still way to young to be that far away. I didn't mention I didn't want my kids to hear her mother talk crap about their father and she would have. She began to ONLY respond to texts. She asked for money for school clothes we have two kids to get ready for school. So we said okay We can give you $150. She said can't you send more I go shopping at JC Penny that will only buy me like one outfit. I told her sorry hun but we can't. We can get you the $150 but thats all.
She won't call. She won't respond to texts now at all the only time we hear from her is when she asks for money. Her contract is coming up. I want to cancel it. For the last Year she hasn't called AT ALL. For the last 5 months she won't even respond to texts.
I think she only contacted us to get money. ANd now that she sees we expect her to be IN our lives and she won't get EVERYTHING she asks for or as much as she asks for she is done.
Am I wrong? I need objectivity. It seems like a pattern emerged. The contact was good so long as we were giving her stuff. After it slowed the contact slowed.