Backstory - I have DS (4) and DD (8 months). SS's are 9 and 11. BM has 3 sk's, oldest is 12 and lives with her own mom, the youngest are 6 year old boy/girl twins and are CO'ed to live with her due to extinuating circumstances with their own mother; sexual abuse according to BM.
BM has sent YSS to live with DH and I a few times because he was being "bad," now we have learned that she has sent her 6 year old SD away, to her own BM's house, to live because she is "bad."
I feel like this sends a horrible message to the children, that they are disposable. I am helpless here, I don't know what to do. All I can think is, "No wonder the kids don't behave, I wouldn't either if I thought I could be thrown away!"
DH said, "Be prepared for SS to come live with us, she might decide to throw the "bad" ones away again."