Lets pint this picture. *i* had 2 dogs, that i took care of prior to ss13 coming to live with us. when husband lost his job it pretty much became his responsibility to feed the dogs because im gone more often than im home because of my hours.
SS came to live with us got a puppy they asked me if it was ok, mind you dh let him pick out the dog bought it all sorts of stuff and if i said no they had to go return everything. i got to be the bad guy basically. I said yes under the condition he takes care of it he feeds it walks it and plays with it. that was all outlined. and it was made very very clear every day you have to take it for a walk the only exception is during football when it was homework and practice, I took it for the walk.
I would go to clean up the backyard, never once asked that ss clean up after his dog because i had two and i was going to be doing it anyways. Well dh said NO don't do it ss is getting paid to feed the dogs and clean the backyard once a week. Ok so we are now on like 7 months of him getting paid. this is my issue that i have taken up with dh and dh thinks im just this horrible person for expecting what i expect.
First off i expect the dogs to be fed. not whenever he remembers not when i get home for work at night and i go and do it i mean at 7 when they have ALWAYS been fed. 7 at night. they have to be seperated because his dog, ss dog, attacks the others for food (its still a puppy and we are working on this and no its not because they don't get enough food this dog eats untill it throws up and then eats again). Cleaning the back yard on sat he racks up the dog poo into piles....thats it. just piles he doesn't pick them up like he is suppose to i have mentioned this to dh and hes like well excuse excuse excuse. the dog hasn't been walked by ss or played with in over a month we had to buy a kennel because the dog is out of controll.
So today i cleaned it up disprooved all his excuses made sure the dogs were fed walked the damn dogs. dh gets up and tells me that he talked to ss and he has 2 weeks to start walking/playing witht he dog or else he takes it to the pound. I said its not fair to that dog you need to just make him follow through instead of letting him half ass everything like he does when he cleans the backyard. He tells me well why don't you start cleaning it i laughed and said wel. are you going to pay me whether or not i do it. now hes pissed that i should be paying ss more money to clean up after my now 1 dog even though i buy the clothes the extras the everything because im the only one working. If he did his chores i don't mind paying but he doesn't am i crazy?
I don't talk to ss about any of this its dh's job to handle it just curious