For a while after we took her to court in September BM would not look at me at all during pick-up and drop offs. She would talk to DF and completely avoid eye contact with me or anything. It didn't make me mad or hurt my feelings, it did make me sad for SD though, I wondered if she could sense that and it made her uncomfortable because she started doing things like not telling people she loves them when she leaves. For example when we would pick her up from BM's house and BM would say "I love you, bye" SD would say "Bye" and not say "I love you" back. She would do the same thing with us when she was leaving our house. It made me sad to think that she thought she couldn't tell one parent she loved them in front of the other or that she was uncomfortable. To show SD that I don't hate her mother, when she was at our house the weekend before he mom's birthday I bought a box of chocolates and I helped SD wrap it in pink penguin wrapping paper and made a fancy white bow to put on it and then I cut out one of her wallet sized school pictures and had her color a nice card for her mom and helped her glue her picture to the card. I put it in an envelope and helped her tuck it under the ribbon and told her to give the gift to her mom for her birthday the next weekend. Ever since then BM has been alternating between eye contact with me and eye contact with DF when talking at pick ups and stuff. I wonder if SD told her that I helped her make her a present and that maybe it softened her heart a little toward me. Or maybe she's just getting over the court thing with time. Either way, I'm glad she's seeming to become ok with me. I hope it continues.