Sleeping Over/Moving In with SO and SD6 - How to explain?
Good morning, all... I am hoping to gain some insight and assistance with the following.
SO and I are planning to move in together this summer. At that point we will have been together for a year. He and BM have been split for 3 years. SD6 and I get along great (he has 50/50). We have been doing things together as a threesome since December (I am the first woman that SO has ever introduced her to... he waited until he knew that we were really serious before the introduction).
SO recently bought a new house and I have been an active participant in the household since he bought it. Doing things there, making dinner for the three of us, spending time on the weekends, etc. I wanted to let her see that I was a part of the household from the beginning in order to make the transition easier when I move in. Also, as a childless woman in her 40's who has spent a large part of the last decade on her own, it's important to me that I immerse myself in this lifestyle completely to make sure that everyone is happy with it (this is uncharted territory for all three of us). Last weekend I spent the night. The following morning SD did not seem to make much of it. She was actually excited that I was still there in the morning.
Last night BM called. SD told her that I had spent the night in Daddy's bed. She has concerns about me spending the night in his bed and wanted to bring them to light. SO explained our plans to move in together as well as our planned "immersion" technique. BM has concerns that SD is too young to understand the boyfriend/girlfriend concept and that it's confusing for her. While I completely understand and respect her concerns, I'm feeling like there must be a solution. Clearly we are not the only people who have ever been in this situation. Also, it's not as though SO has had a revolving door of girlfriends in and out of his bed in front of his daughter. I'm the only one.
So does anyone have any experience with explaining boyfriend/girlfriend relationships to a young child? What was the outcome? SO and I are both a little out of our element here and I'm trying to come up with a solution that will satisfy everyone.