In another thread, a poster (a Mom) stated that there were times she wished SM could have been more motherly or more like a parent who puts the needs of the kids first. For example: considering the fact that BF took her on multiple vacations but never took DDs, or thinking maybe DDs should have been invited or involved in their wedding. This, after BM acknowledges that this isn't SM's responsibility or the role SM wanted. Do you think it is a reasonable to wish SM did those things even though her keeping her distance didn't interfere with your role at all?
Do you think contradictions like this contribute to continued conflict between SM and BM?