SD (5) has been invited to a few parties here and there but we've either never had her on those weekends or once we were going to go but BM refused to let us have her that weekend when she already said yes (drove 100 mi to pick her up and denied)
MAIN QUETIONS: The only birthday parties I've thrown, it was only family and family friends. What is the protocol for pre-school parties? I assume we stay? or do we leave? There was no RSVP info on the invite.
I know how a lot of you feel being introduced as "Mom" v "Stepmom"... but how do you feel when BM is not here and we have custody?
UPDATE: I cut the background crap out, if you are here to read the update then you already read it :-)
DH introduced us by name right off the bat and just said "We're *name*'s parents". So that was that lol! I am a worry wart over nothing sometimes! And I didn't talk to anyone other than DH and the birthday kids dad. Birthday mom also kept saying SD's name wrong, even after all the kids kept saying What? Who's that? And after I made sure when it was her turn at the pinata, I yelled her name in cheering (mom was right next to me) eh whatevs.
All the parents had stayed (well mostly just moms and then one dad) Is that normal too? just one parent to go? Anywho.. the party was pretty good. It was carnival themed and they had a popcorn machine, nacho cheese machine, and a cotton candy machine. They had various homemade carnival games in the backyard and would give the kids tickets when they won (or didn't win). AND THEN the kids just dumped all their tickets into a collective bag and the mom and her sister allowed the kids to pick from a prize stand, she got to choose soooooo many things, it was a floor to ceiling baker's rack type thing. They also had a clown that did face painting and balloon animals. It was a Pinners dream!
For me, mostly awesomly... the pinata. Filled with snack bags! (animals crackers, cheese its, gold fish, etc) How wonderful! SD can't really have candy (whole other story with cavity issues) so she would have been sad when we would have taken it away. (She knows right away she can't have it and we do let her have some on occasion)
Thank you all for your comments, even the troll like ones. It's nice to always keep things in perspective and have a sense of grounding.