A little background: My DH is a teacher at the school where my sd's attend. He does every thing for them, p/p drop off, HW in the mornings and hw in the afternoons with my dds. We do PT conferences, I do baking for the classes, etc. we also do the same for my dd's. education is important and OPS have displayed no interest so this works for us. Bash away, it is what it is. All 4 girls are on honor roll year after year bc of our "tag team" on their education. Anyway sd11 has a project to do , and she wants to partner up with her crush. She asked me about it first and bc I've learned too many hard lessons already I told her that one she will have to talk to DH about. When she did, he said he would think about it. That was Wednesday. When he came home we talked about it and I told him its totally up to him. I can't see how the boy would be able to come to our home bc we live the next state over. (Oh did I mention the awful commute where he has to leave at 5:30 am every morning to do HW with sd's and can't help me in he mornings with the baby or dd's- it's a sacrifice). IMO, she's too young to work with a boy, esp her crush and he likes her, too. Anyway, he said the same thing I was thinking so he was gonna tell her no. Thursday morning, he picks them up and sd tells him BM said yes. Wtf? Yes! I'm aware kids play both parents, dd's do it at times. But 1. BM HAS NEVER been involved in edu or sports( sd's played softball, she NEVER went to a game!) 2. She didn't ask what subject, etc 3. She sd they could work in their bedroom. DH lost it, sent her an email (only communication we do bc of past problems).
1.Would u let ur 11 year old do a project with a crush? I think if they were supervised maybe. 2. And did I handle it rt or should I have gotten more involved. I feel like I shut her down when she came to me.