And this became MY problem... Why?? (Long but haven't complained in awhile ;)
This is not a bitch post about BM. It has nothing to do with her. (rare in here lately...lol) It has to do with the procrastinating idiot that I married!!!
Spring Break this year is dh's parenting time. DH requested Fri Mar 29th off work to travel to VA to get skids. That leaves DH scheduled for work on March 30th and 31st as well as April 3rd and 4th. DH has known since Sept that I will no longer watch his 3 while they are here. He must make other arrangements. DH, himself caused this sich whereas the skids were allowed to have so little respect for me, that the stress in this house was unbearable and I disengaged. Changed my life!! He also waited until the last minute to figure things out for Thanksgiving.
Without saying a word, and automatically assuming his parents who live across the street will watch them he has done nothing for visitation. He has not talked to his parents... At all!! Well, his mom is having surgery... Next Tues. there is no way she is having the 3 skids there. She was actually supposed to watch my 15m old on April 6th.. But I told her to to worry about it. They are saying it will be a 4 MONTH recovery for her.
Now if my DH worked a job where he could be here for his kids, this might be different. He works nights. He is working, sleeping or traveling to and from work 22hrs out of a 24hr period.
I am 25+ weeks pregnant, with a very high risk pregnancy. A week ago, we found out that the baby has an issue with a kidney which will Prob require surgery. Can we say... STRESS. Then to compound it, I had an EKG (sis died suddenly at 47 of a heart attack, I carry same gene) and FAILED it on Thurs (3 abnormal tests). I am now scheduled for an echocardiogram and a 24hr monitor on the 26th. More stress.
Add in the care of a 15m old active boy and 4.5yo girl. Then my mom having surgery (hernia and a tumor removed) Thurs. I will have to help my Mom and help my MIL over the following weeks. (Why does everything happen at ONCE?? Ahhhh)
This is so NOT my problem. However, I have him one and only one alternative to missing the visit. (His schedule can't be changed.. But the idiot *could* have requested vacation days up until 2 weeks ago) If he can swap his Fri Mar 29 off to either April 3rd or 4th, then I will keep the skids the other night... The 3rd or 4th. This way, he misses a weekend... But not the whole visit. Of course, BM will have to agree. Hope she didn't make plans because that would make dh's lack of planning even more shitty!!
What say you... Fair?? I think I am being more then generous with the one day of watching them all.