my 16 yr old stepdaughter moved into our home in January. She is a problem child. Since she has moved in our house has turned in one big house of drama. I have joined a small group at church for stepmoms. It does not seem to be helping me cope much. I have an 18 yr old daughter who is graduating this yr. She gets out of school 1/2 day each day and works a part time job thurs - Sunday. My 18 yr old picks up her stepsister from school every day at 3 and also picks up my 6 yr old daughter from daycare on three of those days. The other 2 days the school bus gives my 16 year old a ride to my daughters work and I pick her up when I get off work. My 16 yr old stepdaughter is defiant and disrespectful. She feels like she is asked to do too much around the house. This past week my husband felt like it was too much asking her to clean the bathroom including the bathtub she uses when my daughter cleans the downstairs 1/2 bath that she uses. My 18 yr old helps out around the house by vacuuming, mopping, dusting, washing towels, etc. My stepdaughter does very little in comparison. However, my husband felt it was unfair for his daughter to have to clean a bathtub all the time that is used by all three girls. Caused a major blowup. My 18 yr old is tired of doing for this girl and not getting a simple thank you in return. She takes her to her counseling sessions and any other appts that come up that myself or my husband cannot take the 16 yr old to. I feel like alot of burden has been placed in my 18 yr old and she is not getting to enjoy her sr year of high school. I feel like our lives have fell apart. Maybe I am the one who needs couseling.