BM â€“ do you have a friend that is a SM? If so, does she ask you for your opinion about her involvement with her step kids? Does she ever ask you, â€śIn your situation would you be okay with this?â€ť Do you ever bounce your ideas of, what your SM should and shouldnâ€™t do, off of them? Do you take their experience into consideration when dealing with your SM (ie : are you more understanding/sympathetic with your SM, because you know what your SM friend goes through)? Do they appreciate your BM perspective? Do you appreciate their SM perspective?
SM â€“ do you have a friend that is a BM only? If so, do you ask her for her opinion about your involvement with your step kids? Have you ever asked her, â€śWould you be okay if your SM did this?â€ť Do you ever ask her what she feels a SM should or shouldnâ€™t do? Do they ever ask you about your experience as an SM? Do you think they appreciate your SM perspective? Do you appreciate their BM perspective?
Iâ€™m not trying to imply that a BM canâ€™t be friends with a SM (or vice versa), and Iâ€™m not saying you should let someone elseâ€™s idea control your situation or how you raise your children. Iâ€™m just curious to know if you have friends in the opposite situation and if you ever give each other advice or opinions regarding your different situations.