we got a call from bm wednesday to come get him. long story short, she's lazy, refuses to work and dirty home living, etc (has been every man's complaint including dh's). we have been WANTING to get custody of him but was waiting til we could get the house arranged and more stable ourselves before pressing for custody and not to mention some allogations wouldn't have sustained in court.
Well wednesday i was at work dh, texts me; Um, call me
so i do, and "bm just called telling me we need to go get him, he wants to live with us, and her and current bf (whom she JUST had a baby with) are breaking up and she is going to a shelter. ss and 2 other kids will be with her sister and new baby will be with her dad and his parents (yeah they lived with his mom and dad) and she is going to a shelter." well we didn't have proper set up so because he had somewhere to go until we could prepare, we had to prep first (we had a FEW clothes for him and that's it). he will not have ANY funiture, few clothes, NO toys-we were working on getting him his own "space" but hadn't gotten there yet.
he also talked to bm and she has NO legal information on him, no bc, no shot record no ss card NOTHING so we will have to start from scratch begining NOW because he is supposed to be in school next year.
we will probably have to contact dhs to get medical information (with permission slip from bm) so we can get an accurate shot record and all that good jazz.
dh and i are hoping this will be a permanent set up. bm said if she's not prepared to take him back by school start, then she'll just give us custody (yes us) not to mention, she said she's been thinking about it for a while cause all day every day for a while, that's ALL she hears from ss, not to mention when we drop him off, he looks at her, and "i DON'T WANT TO BE HERE, I WANT TO GO HOME WITH DADDY!" and storms inside. he does this EVERY TIME no matter WHO drops him off.
yes we are getting something in writing from bm, it wont be notarized, but dh said, i just want to get him here, then we'll go from there-but it's on now, she promised to return the child support garnishment so we can get him proper funiture (long story short, he's legal father of her first daughter, and paying cs on her-that's a WHOLE other blog). per cse SHE has to stand up and acknowledge that dh isn't her dd's father, etc and she hasn't done that-yeah of course not, she gets cs on her from him