We have my SO's 9 (almost 10 yo) Son every other weekend sometimes a lot more, especially recently after his mother just has a new baby.
When he is here he has NO chores, no responsibilities, NOTHING even though I have begged his father to help and have him help. He eats breakfast /lunch/dinner, pulls his chair away and back to the couch he goes with no much as a thanks for dinner.
I've suggested for going on 5 years that he should have chores, making his bed, straighten his bathroom, bring laundry down ANYTHING to teach some responsibility. But his father refuses to make him help. They make a huge mess and just expect me to clean it all.
My question is this... Do you guys have rules about chores and schedules. His dad feels that because he only has him on the weekends that he shouldn't have to clean at all.
I think it's good for him to learn to help and take care of himself too. But I'm the bad guy apparently for wanting help and I'm not a maid for shits sake!
Any advice is greatly appreciated!