When she does come she doesn't do anything. She use to help out when she lived here now she seems to have an attitude anytime she's told to pick up after herself. Mainly when I say it which is rare. DH and I argued Thursday about my relationship with her and his complaints were that I don't try yo engage with SD. I initiate ALL conversation and activities. SD chooses to be short with me or just answer questions without any additional conversation on her part. I told DH I don't know what he expects me to do. The child doesn't like me I am mean I mistreat her I don't show her love. SD again is only here 1-1 1/2 days when she comes. Maybe once or twice she's been here the full weekend. And guess who is the one to blame? Me!!
I can't have a 10yo run my house. I told DH that he and DS have bonded so well because he has always been here and doesn't have someone interfering with their relationship. Mil clearly wants to be SD mom figure and has been the devil since 2009.
I know it's mean but I am relieved when she goes back because I don't have to deal with SD until the next time. My DH acts so concerned but IMO should be working on his relationship with his DD. AND making effort to bring us back together. If he's not doing anything why should I? I feel I should blend with them from the sidelines but not be that parent I tried to be. DH has no control over anything to do with SD. I want my marriage to work but I want to see DH make changes. If not our life will be miserable. I think when he understands I am not the only one who needs to make changes things will.be better but until then, it will be a divided home when SD is here.
What would u do???