I am nursing my newborn and am unwilling to take the baby to this place. First, it is an hour and a half away and I do not think three hours in the car one or two times a week is good for baby (one therapy session and one visit). Second, we have visited with the baby to the local facilities and it is no place for a baby. DH has planned to do all of the therapy sessions via phone and is unwilling/unable to do the drive. He is not capable of long drives and would require me to do it. My older children, teens, will not be visiting because there is no need to expose them to this and they really have no interest. SD's goal was to drive everyone away and she was quite successful.
In all of this, I am being pressured by family and friends to drive down there. They think I should take the older kids and just wean my baby so I can leave her at home. I feel like the kids and I have given up enough for SD and it is time for us to start healing and learn to live a life that isn't centered around a mentally ill teen.
Thoughts? Feel free to bash or comment.
UPDATE: We had our first family session via phone today. These will not work. The quality of the call is low and cannot be put on speakerphone on our end - it is on speakerphone on their end. As soon as anything regarding the family at home was discussed, SD left - she had the therapist remove her, she did not say she was leaving and did not say goodbye. I know it sounds tragic, but she is very passive aggressive and refuses to participate in therapy unless it has a 'poor, poor SD' theme. I did not like not being able to see her face and I have concerns about manipulation (another pattern) if this is continued. I had asked if we could do this via Skype, but they said their internet quality is too poor and the video chats are too choppy to be therapeutically useful.