Is he worried about the money only now? If so, why bother? My ex hasn't paid what he's supposed to (sans the child support because I have the state take that out of his check and he never sees it)... I'd rather have the kids than what he is supposed to pay.
They can send BM to jail.
if it has been year(s), plural, why is he just now doing it? i would be more concerned about motive on his part and how filing a greivance of any type would effect mom. children are most effected by things that go on with mom, due the fact that it's mom, regardless of the type of relationship they may or may not have. so yeah, he would accomplish something, but probably more then what he intends to.
how much money does she owe?
I think that parents should support their children. If a parent is TRYING to find a job and is struggling and thus can't pay CS, I wouldn't be inclined to file with the court. But if a parent is just not paying, I might if I had asked and asked and asked. I wouldn't do it willy nilly without a conversation though.
After 3 years, I too wonder what your DH's motive is. Has something changed that is prompting this now?
It might. Or might not. Why has he waited until now?
If she has a job, it's probably more likely her wages would be garnished than she'd go to jail. It seems rather rare that BMs endure the same level of enforcment BDs do. I'm frankly not impressed with the (utter lack of) enforcement with regard to most deadbeat NCPs. Having it on record, however, may effectively block any future attempts on her part to gain custody or additional visitation.
Depends on many things, is she working, does she have any means to pay, they may take tax refunds, garnish wages. I don't really think it matters what his motivation, if she is ordered to pay she should. No one gives men a pass on paying child support. All parents should help support their children.
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