SD16 - I want to like her, really I do, but had to disengage. Just venting.
I've tried for 2 years now to get to know this girl. I know all I want to know about her. She's spoiled and selfish and obnoxious. Her father even says she's this way, but he's the Disney Dad. So, what I've done is disengaged.
I may have gone to far in the disengagement. She no longer exists for me. I know refer to her as "Your Daughter" or "His Daughter". The past 3 weekends she's been here, I've not said one word to her. At all. This is how she has acted toward me for almost 2 years. She *may* say hello if I say hello, but only in front of other people.
I really hate this. It feels so stupid and unnecessary. I'd much rather have a normal relationship. But he won't help me in this at all, he refuses to speak to her about anything that she does that is rude or wrong. I've asked him for us to have a sit down "family" talk. He's agreeable to that, but says he won't say a word, he'll just sit there. He won't agree or disagree with anything I say in this "meeting". Really?? Why bother at all.
I swear had I known how much crap step-moms go through, I would never have dated this man.