just a vent. bash or advise, it makes no difference.
He gets up this morning. Our ds4 had wet the bed. This is a rarity, maybe twice a month. Dh fusses at him about wetting the bed. All 3 kids were playing. Sd10 starts throwing balls in the house, which she knows better. Ds4 throws one, hits something, gets yelled at by Dh . last weekend, Dh had a bad attitude toward me and seemed like he did nothing but bitch at me all day Saturday. This is not normal for him, he is a pretty laid back guy. Last Sunday, he bitched and fussed at ds4 the entire day. He can be a brat, all kids can. We were at the in-laws and he didn't understand that they were hiding eggs for the kids. He just wanted to go outside and play. He was super tired and whiney. Dh yelled at him in frontof aabout 20 people because he wouldn't sit down. Meanwhile, SD and all the other kids were running around and being kids.
Today, sd10 acted the perfect angel all day. He never had to repeat himself, she didn't scream at him like she did me all week, was respectful etc. So yes I was irritated at both. He is not here and she is a complete brat. He said nothing to her about her behavior all week. He just spends the day jumping my shit and being an ass and constantly fussing at ds4 for doing typical four year old things. I was so irritated and not to mention I am 29 weeks prego and feeling crappy so I went to bed. I slept for 5 hours and left him to play with all 3 kids alone all day.
*afterthought* I am seriously considering telling him to find someone to watch her but I don't know how we would afford that. I will be out of work on maternity leave then so we won't have my check coming in. Plus, I started feeling bad because he leaves at 6am and usually doesn't get home til 630 pm. He sits in traffic for an hour in the am and pm to commute. So he would have to leave earlier, get home later to take her. So SD would be up super early and then not get home til almost 7pm. I feel bad about that but I don't think I should feel bad. Then I thought that he and bm could work something out between them, but her work schedule is weird and that would put both of them doing a lot of driving. Plus last summer they tried to change the agreement so that SD wasn't going back and forth so much. She came to us every other weekend. It was supposed to help her behavior. It made it worse. I kinda feel stuck between a rock and a hard place here.