My husband normally talks to his kids daily via skype/face time. Unfortunately, where he is right now, internet is sketchy so sometimes it's just his gov't phone which has time limits.
Generally, he does manage to get in touch with the kids each day before he talks to me and if he has used up his internet or minutes for the week, I don't get to chat.
I'm fine with that. While I miss him, I can totally manage to not talk to DH for a day or two and not lose my marbles. I'd prefer that he talk to the kids daily if it's between them or me based on his minutes or bandwidth.
I'm a grown up and I can deal.
But I was talking to a friend who is also a SM and BM and she totally freaked when I told her that I knew he'd talked to the kids (because they called and said so) but that I hadn't been able to talk to him.
In most situations, I am not cool with coming in second, third or fourth. But in THIS situation, I'm fine with it. I can handle a few days (or weeks) apart or being unable to talk. I've worked overseas. I get it. I am fine.
But my friend was all "You should be the first person he calls."
I totally disagree. I think the kids should come first in this situation. I feel like I should get in line. If it works out, great. If not, okay.
How would you feel? I love to be able to talk to DH but I am not going to die if I don't. Whereas I think this situation is a lot harder on the kids. So when it comes to a 60 min daily limit, I'd rather they spent that time together (kids and DH).
We're ALL new to this situation. It's just that I've done the overseas thing before and he hasn't. He is feeling badly about it too and I keep saying "don't worry about it...talk to the kiddos."
I mean it. I don't want him to think that I don't want to talk to him, I do. But I can handle it.