Its funny how things start of with so much negativity between bm and sm than as time goes on things turn around now the same person talking sh*t and downgrading sm is the person who is being asked for help.
Its funny how some bm look as everything a sm does with the child sm is trying to be mom. A simple Hey ______I miss you!......Now bm think you wrong because your tyring to replace her as mom because only bm mom can tell they child they miss them.
I notice something about my sd bm, She always feels I'm replacing her as mom because my sd talks about me so much, ask about me everytime she talks to her dad on the phone, if im around for pick up and drop of she gives me big hugs and kisses and her mom see that me and her have a wonderful relationship.
Bm would complain about anything i did like combin sd hair, what shoes or clothes i may by her (now she doesnt after the judge put her in her place)
Bm argue petty things to dh all the time espcially when she is mad or havnt had any drama to keep up she looks for things to start.
Now I notice when she texts about sd or talks to my dh she tries to make it noticable that what she has to say to my dh isnt my business but when she wants something for sd she says as in WE
She would text can you guys pay for sd books and registration?
(Why we pay majority of her tuition and you pay 80 bucks added to our 300)
She texted Can your guys go half with me for sd brithday party?
(Why should we are family dont get along and you get child support, Where planning our own party)
She texted can Taylor braid sd hair because I work early morning all next week and sf cant comb hair
(Why you didnt want me doing sd hair at all at 1st, why should I help you out, Cant she do it herself so sf doesnt have to worry about it?)
The newest text she sent Do you guys have health insurance?
Dh replied yes why?
BM: Because i lost my job that I had health insurance with and sd doesnt have insurance any more and my new job doesnt offer it
Dh: Well what do you plan on doing because you suppose to solely provide for health insurance. What are you doing over there WE are doing everything for sd you just called me cheap the other day. We put 300 on your 80 for sd to go to school, We provide for her for my 50% I have her, We pay for her both her extra activities and now your asking for health insurance. Are you sure your a CNA?
Bm: Yes I am an CNA that have bills can your guys provide health insurance for her or not?
Dh: Ill see what I can do.
Dh jobs health insurance is so dam high its rediculous and the doctor offices they have is wack!!
So with my job a family of 3 is 100 dollars with co pays of $15 our doctor is a really good doctor no wait times same day appointments all our health information is online etc. To add an additional person its $75 to the plan. I just added sd on there because it has been almost 6 months since sd havnt seen a doctor and she has been sick alot so my dh will take her to the er and rack up hospital bills bm wont take her because she dont want nomore hospital bills so she waits to sd comes back to our house really sick and she know we would take her to the doctor and pay for her medicine. So I told dh how much it would be to add sd to our family plan of 75 dollars he told bm that sm can add her but its additional 75 amonth and she would have to pay to us. BM text back saying why should she have to pay sm 75 dollars to put sd on insurance because sd is dh kid just like our son. So dh decided he will not go back in fourth with her he would just wait until drop off to expalin to her. So during drop off dh bought it up to her agina, bm still doesnt see why she needs to pay me 75 dollars for sd a month or subtract if from the 300. I went on and added sd anyways because that baby need to have a doctor and my dh doesnt need to keep racking hospital bills for sd when she is sick. Bm doesnt know that stepdaughter was insured as of April 1st.
I do not feel that bm needs to know sd doctor office or have her insurance card because all our names is on cards and bm rather see her daughter uninsured than pay (she is suppose to have health insurance for sd per CO) Bm is use to having us pay for everything and she can stop paying when she feels like it. So sd has a doctor she will see on Monday and dh is debating if he should even tell bm or wait to after the appointment and give her an update on what the doctor said and if bm needs to take sd during her time to the doctor she can take her to the emergency room and rack bills up her self and if she dont take her and choose to wait to dh has her than he just take her to our family pediatric doctor.
Its funny how most of the replies are about my dh being in the wrong.
Stepmom coming to the rescue once again!
Dh is wrong for not being able to pick up the extra bill for health insurance.
Its such a double standard when a father cannot pay certain amounts of cs, or miss payments, lost a job, etc he is a dead beat, he gets talked about so much but when the tables arent switch and the mother is not meeting her financial part she gets the light weight treatment.
I did add my sd on, she coverage I will have dh give her bm a card and bm has 3 months to find sd some health insurance. She can work something out with my dh, take sd out of private school, or just simple pay me back 75/month Either way but after the 3 months if i dont start seeing the 75/month or something than Ill remove sd because that 75 is what i transfer to my kids savings fun every month.
I already all of you are bashing me but its cool because its not my child right!! so mom and dad she have it covered.