I have been with my husband for 4 yrs. We have a total of 5 kids. 2 are his. 3 are mine. We have them on a weekly basis, every other week.
My life seems to be in a steady mode of chaos and i can honestly say that there are 2 reasons for the resentment I am starting to have.
1. My husband's narcissistic ex-wife
2. My husband's oldest son
His ex has always hated me. From day one she has found ways to try to make my life hell. She has taken us to court 3x in hopes to gain full custody but she failed each time. This last time was the worse. Thank god the courts were able to see right through the lies and parental alienating she was doing. It actually backfired on her and she was court ordered to pay child support as well as the $5,000 in bills, school fees and prescriptions that she had not taken responsibility for since i came around. ( I can pay for her childs medical bills but i am not permitted to take them to the Dr. I can pay for school fees and clothes but I am not permitted to join any conferences or be there for meetings. ) Well she was ordered to pay 9 months ago and she is nothing other than a deadbeat. She'd rather spend the money on her married boyfriend. I have told my husband numerous times to file contempt of court and his reply is always "she said she would pay".
As for my stepson...i am trying to figure out how to put this without being so harsh. He is downright lazy! My husband does the guilt parenting. Because mommy will take us to court at the drop of a dime, he does what he can to spare his son any hurt feelings. This means the kid does whatever he wants and gets by with it. He has failing grades in 5 of 7 subjects. He gets no restrictions placed for this. On the other hand, i discipline my kids for anything below a 'c". My stepson decides if he wants to eat what i made and if not, he is told to throw it away although the other kids are told they have ro eat! My husband will be quick to tell me that he is punishing the boy for something then 5 min. Later he isn't doing it. There is a lot more i can add. I just know that this is long enough.
My husband seems so wimpy when it comes to his ex and the oldest son. I am resenting the fact that he allows his son to run this house and i am resentful for the fact that his ex basically controlls my household. I try to talk to my husband about this but it turns into a yelling match every time. He doesnt listen.
I am trying to figure out what reasons i have for staying. At the present time, i feel as if there are more reasons to go. Am i handleing this wrong? HELP!