Me and my Dh have been together for 3 years at that time BM was barely in SS life called maybe 1 every 2 months and after me and my dh were married a week later my SS went to see his BM he was 5 at the time. Usually it's only for one week but I begged my dh for a month because SS seemed excited and plus I was trying to consider BM feelings I thought she would want more time than 1 week out of a year even though she really didn't. Well when he came back he hated me told me he wished I would die told me she said he shouldn't like me because I hated him. This was not the same sweet baby that left he loved me we had a great relationship. She went off on me while she had him and I told her I thought I was pregnant in one of the conversations so she told my SS to hate my baby and it would not be his bro or sis. So when me and dh finally did get preg he hated it and when my daughter was born he hated her wanted to kill her I was so afraid to leave her alone for 5 sec to even go to the bath room. I confronted her she thought it was funny and said well hes no longer my responsibility he's yours. she did not call or text him until his birthday that next year by them he had found out everything she said had been a lie cause I treated his the same even when he would tell me he hates me I'd say we'll I love you. When she called him he refused to talk to her so she text my DH and told him to tell SS happy birthday and he's no longer her son that was over a year ago. My DH brought up the option of adoption so I agreed I have been doing for my SS even before me and dh were married shes had not done noting she is not involved period. So I do not understand how I could be wrong for Doing the adoption!