OT: Aging parents/medical procedures...and siblings
I have two younger brothers. One is overseas and has been for the last 7 years. I've not lived near home, either out of state or abroad for 13 years. Only my youngest bro is still back in the home town near my mom.
Mom is going to have another procedure done this week that's pretty major. I can't be home for it. I'm the medical POA person though and am on all of her records so that they call me afterwards. Even though my youngest bro takes her to these things, he is clueless and frightened by all of it. So they just call me.
I feel so badly for him. I know he HATES going to this stuff but someone has to and he's there. My other brother is hands off. I am involved with the docs and have gone home to help post op in the past, but I can't right now. I spent a few weeks home with her this last summer but it's not something I can do at this time. So it's on him. Bless his heart. (in the Northern way!)
How does it work out w/ your parents and your siblings. Is it fair or is it just a matter of whomever didn't leave town gets all the responsibility? And what if EVERYONE is gone? then what? I hate that my baby brother, the one LEAST well versed in medical stuff and LEAST comfortable with it is the one who has to be there. And there is no one else really. Other than maybe friends.