I am at a loss...priorities are SO out of whack! (RANT)
I've posted before about our issues with getting SD8 to counseling. BM *says* she sees how important it is, and that we're all just trying to help SD find her way into a happier place...but when it comes down to actually stepping up, once again BM has bailed for something easier.
The counselor's schedule is ridiculous. She has only Saturday and Thursday appointments. We fixed the issue with not "getting" any Saturdays-- BM was trying to book one appointment at a time. Um, they get full, can't do that! So my DH booked up every Saturday time slot we could get, through the summer. Still, it works out to be every other (or even every third) Saturday. In between, he set up for Thursdays-- which BM has been taking her to, and now her mom (aka Granny) is taking SD to because BM just finally decided to earn a paycheck again since her unemployment was running out. Everyone recognizes the process is helping SD, but is going to take TIME.
Then BM texts DH in a panic. She "forgot" that she had registered SD for an art class that starts next week...on Thursday nights. The timing could still work to do both, but it'd be pretty tight.
My response to him: If the schedule means it's either/or, cancel the art class. SD is FINALLY getting in the groove of talking things out now and we're seeing progress...I'm sorry, how is this even a question?!?
Response: because BM's mom paid for the art class. Ok. So--pay her back? Or, *we* can even help pay back half of it if necessary.
Why is it an option to even consider sacrificing mental health progress for, uh, pretty pictures???
Bottom line, DH had to leave it up to BM because he doesn't have the time off work from the new job to schedule every other Thursday afternoon off to take her to the counselor early enough to also do the art class. That she doesn't need.
And of course BM doesn't want to rock the boat with her mother, who basically said, "Well, I guess, I COULD take her to both...but, UGH! Really, I just HATE having to sit there and wait."
So, yeah. Those Thursday appointments were ALL cancelled in order for Granny to not have to be bored in a waiting room. For an hour. Because with the timing of the art class--SHE COULD HAVE STILL DONE BOTH. But, no. It's too "annoying" to make a priority. WTF, people!!?!
Apparently pacifying petulant adults is more important than helping a child in pain work her way out of it?? How can that be OK????
I don't get it. And, I don't get a vote and can't do anything further about it, so I had to come rant to hopefully some other SM's who can empathize. Once again, taking the "easy" route is failing this child and I wanna scream.