I am beside myself with all the crap going on. I'm so hurt and fustrated I feel as if no one knows exactly how I feel execpt other step parents. So here goes, cause I really need some sound advice please!
I'm married to dh for almost 7 years. We are a blended family as i have 2 sd's now 19 and 18 and I have a son from another relationship who is 16, no kids of our own. Anyway, Things were great for a few years all getting along, and then one day my dh turned on my son and things have been hell since.He treats my son like he is crap and yells at him all the time. He feels as if I should give him my chldsupport for the family and and I disagree. If my son needs something I use the child support on him, while my dh wanted to pay for sd's college books with it.
I have always treated sd's like part of the family becuase they are. I love them dearly and so does my family. I am not working, as I got laid off 3 years ago so I am back in school to get a degree and will graduate next year. In the meantime I was babysitting my nephews and my cousin was paying me, which I used themoney to pay for my college tuition.
Sd's used to talk to me all the time about how much they cant' stand their dad that all he ever does is talk about money, how he made their childhood hell etc. I felt bad for them because I see how he is doing that now for my son and for me. Always starts crap on every holiday and doesnt' even go to any of my family events anymore.
Anyway, my parents and I saved enough money to take all three kids themselves and me to disney last summer for a surprise vacation. I told dh to tell his ex about us flying and he refused. I had no number, address (cause bm moved and didn't give address) and I didn't have her email. I asked sd's for bm's email and they didn't give it. Anyway bm made it hell for the girls on vacation because she didn't know.
Ever since vacation in august, the girls have not been around. Dh is supposed to be 50/50 and they just don't come around. When my son asked why their response one day was" we dont want to" or when are you going to stay here again? "Uhhh the day next to never" are the responses.
Have I mentioned that my dh has given the 19 year old 2500.00 in 2 months?! He yells and screams and goes ape like if I spend any money but he can give her money and not tell me until I see our bank statements from cashed checks.
I used to be so close to sd's and have no clue what has happened. I'm so alone as dh works till late, girls not here anymore. My son likes spending time at my parents home because he can't stand dh either. I'm just so hurt that the family that use to be is no longer.