How to deal with the emotions a SD brings when the BM creates such negativity?
I have a SD who is a lot of fun. She Unfortunately is going through a complicated time due to some transitions we all are facing. Her BM is having a difficult time adjusting that I’m in the picture and unfortunately guilt’s this beautiful child in finding comfort with me. My SD is also adjusting but it seems like she has grown to have beautiful feelings for me; as mine have quickly grown for her! Sadly her BM is quick to stop and diminish any of those feelings directed to me from my SD. I know with time this will be easier but at this time its hard on me only because I have grown to care so much for my SD, That I find it unsettling that her BM can cause such cruel feelings in her and create a false sense of normality in all the negative emotions she creates in her childhood.
But this magnificent little girl is nothing short of magnificent she teaches me a lot and she sure can handle a whole lot. I know things will get better for her as she’s able to recognize between positive and negative behavior. BUT until then how do I hold it together with out feeling resentful and lost in this mix of emotions.
any suggestions ??
Thanks!! By the way this is my 1st time writing on this post !! Just reading the posts and advice many have posted, gave me the courage to voice myself!