Its our weekend to have SD16. We're excited, she's excited...afterall, she's been gone out of town for Cheerleading Nationals the last 2 weekends, so we've missed her!
BM decides to tell DH a line-up of things for us to do with SD this weekend, which of course, costs money and unravels the plans we already had. Things like "take her to pick out a purity ring," and "take her to XYZ car lot, they have many cars in our budget," and "she has a hair appointment SUNDAY morning, be on time." When he showed me the text, I called BM and told her that our weekend is already planned out, and that we need MORE than ZERO notice when she would "like" to schedule things on our time; a proper discussion needs to take place BEFORE plans are made. And since I paid for her last hair appointment (barely 3wks ago), I do believe that this go-round belongs to her!
She asks to speak to DH, and I said "did you hear me? We already have plans for this weekend and SD is excited about them all. You are not able to put things on OUR to-do list without 1st talking to DH/us about it first." Dead silence, so I said "do you understand how inconsiderate & balsy of you to do things like this?" Ooh wee, then it was on! She yelled "put DH on the phone, I don't have to talk to you. He promised her a purity ring and seems like he's putting everything before her ring and its up to me to make sure her feelings aren't hurt." I asked her if she even bothered to ask SD what she wanted, because the last time I checked (3 days ago), SD wanted a car over a ring! "And yes we do need to talk because you have been inventing things out of the blue lately for DH/us to pay for. What's up with that? Things of no importance or non-essentials (then I named 3 of them). Any money that comes from DH, comes from me and I have a say-so on how its spent. You're no stranger to this sweetheart. Next weekend, you can take her to the salon and look at cars. We are going XYZ this weekend." THEN, I gave DH the phone.
It wasn't as bad as it sounds, because I don't argue. Well, that's a lie but anyway! I mostly say what the hell I need to say and leave it at that. BM gives DH a bunch of attitude but is a docile sheep whenever I talk to her. She sat there in total silence, like she always does, the whole time. I wasn't mean, I was firm. I was rational and gave factual accounts of why our weekends and our household will NEVER be subject to her approval. Nobody can argue with facts, and that's why she sat there.
A few known facts: BM has been pissy ever since DH upgraded my ring recently. SD took pictures of it, plastered it all over Instagram or wherever, family in other states have WOWED the ring and...BM cannot stand it! I promise you, she has called with the most outrageous demands on DH's money its not even funny. Even called my MiL! I have a great relationship with my SD; I just deep conditioned her hair on Wednesday and trimmed the ends again. Plus, as I mentioned, she just went to the salon 3wks ago!She's a happy camper! Where this sudden "hair appointment" came from is beyond me! And the car? Well, that's one of things planned for this weekend. She is going to WORK with DH on tomorrow so she can continue to EARN money for her "car account." We're not just handing her the keys to a car, without her lifting a finger! Again, she's excited about going to work with him; that's their QT alone. We talked to her last night and she was like "do I have to pack my uniform or will I just be in the back, Daddy?" We're also having a clothing & food drive on Sunday for the less fortunate and she's excited to make the posters and meet the people. See, BM just needs to chill out and quit trying to pick-pocket my man! Or else!
This was mainly a vent. I think the rain has me all worked-up! Lol!