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What does it mean when BM lies about... (maybe she's just tapped in the head?)

Anonymous
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BM takes situations that actually happened and puts her own spin on them so that she becomes the victim or the hero.

Examples:

DH had police accompany him to pick up SS to prove he attempted to pick up his son and BM denied him, also so BM could not say he caused a commotion.
BM is telling everyone SHE called the cops on DH.

BM tells people DH doesn't pay his CS, its garnished from his wages so of course he pays.

BM tells people DH never sees his son, DH sees his son every other weekend.

DH asks for extra time, BM says no. Then BM tells people DH ignores his son.

BM has no job but goes on vacations with her parents and asks DH for money for their son's "plane ticket" when DH says no BM calls him a prick.

BM takes SS to therapy and SS is on blood pressure meds for ADHD. DH talks to therapist about SS's behavior on the meds which DH describes as "tired and zombielike"...well, then a month after DH talks to the therapist SS suddenly doesn't need meds anymore.

BM and I walked by each other at a town carnival. We ignored each other. BM told everyone I screamed at and threatened her and security escorted me out!!!!

There is a name for BM's behavior isn't there?
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:14 PM
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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:16 PM
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How do you know that she tells these things to people? Why are you talking to her friends? And why are they telling you what she is saying? I would stop that. I have no idea why people lie.
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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:19 PM
I was friends with BM's cousin, waaaaay before I met DH so we are still friends. BM is still talking and yapping at family functions where her cousin overhears.


Quoting momof2ex1:

How do you know that she tells these things to people? Why are you talking to her friends? And why are they telling you what she is saying? I would stop that. I have no idea why people lie.

annabl1970
by Gold Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:19 PM
LOL just ignore her.
People will figure out sooner of later she is liar
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momof2ex1
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:22 PM
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You should tell your friend that you don't want to hear about BM

1. She could be doing it because she knows her cousin is telling you everything. I've done this lol in my early divorce days. I had a co-worker that decided to befriend my ex on MySpace. I was confiding in her and he was finding out everything. So I started filling her with lies bc then he knew nothing that was going really going on in my life. It was fun. He should have known better than to try to snoop on me. And the co worker well she looked real dumb when all that she was gossiping about came back to bite her.


Quoting Anonymous:

I was friends with BM's cousin, waaaaay before I met DH so we are still friends. BM is still talking and yapping at family functions where her cousin overhears.




Quoting momof2ex1:

How do you know that she tells these things to people? Why are you talking to her friends? And why are they telling you what she is saying? I would stop that. I have no idea why people lie.


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by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:33 PM
I wish that were the case but these are things she is telling family and friends without knowing cousin is filling me in.


Quoting momof2ex1:

You should tell your friend that you don't want to hear about BM



1. She could be doing it because she knows her cousin is telling you everything. I've done this lol in my early divorce days. I had a co-worker that decided to befriend my ex on MySpace. I was confiding in her and he was finding out everything. So I started filling her with lies bc then he knew nothing that was going really going on in my life. It was fun. He should have known better than to try to snoop on me. And the co worker well she looked real dumb when all that she was gossiping about came back to bite her.




Quoting Anonymous:

I was friends with BM's cousin, waaaaay before I met DH so we are still friends. BM is still talking and yapping at family functions where her cousin overhears.






Quoting momof2ex1:

How do you know that she tells these things to people? Why are you talking to her friends? And why are they telling you what she is saying? I would stop that. I have no idea why people lie.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:35 PM
It's not compulsive lying...its something else....
pepper504
by Gold Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 2:37 PM
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DH's ex is like this.  Been there, done that.  I still choose to not give her the time of day and everyone knows it.  Eventually, people get it and realize that BM is the one with the issues, not you/DH.  Let me guess, BM does not have any really long time/close friends.  That should tell you something if she does not.

Tigress22304
by Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2013 at 3:29 PM
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its big bad bitchassitis-where the bitch tries to act like she's a bad bitch but really just full of hot air

DDDaysh
by on Apr. 19, 2013 at 3:42 PM
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 lol...  She probably does it for the same reason that you care about her doing it... 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 19, 2013 at 3:45 PM
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It is called being ridiculous.

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