Putting your marriage 1st often turns heads espcially in blended and stepfamilies as MY KIDS COME 1ST. Also putting your marriage 1st is compeletely different than putting your marriage over your kids.
Of course if baby needs shoes but parents want to take a weekend vacation to bond as husband and wife you will buy your baby shoes instead of a weekend vacation so your putting your babies needs over your marriage.
you have 15 year old david being disrespectful towards sf because ss dislike his sf because he believes in rules and bm knows what ss did was disrespectful but instead of standing behind her dh she takes her son side. How long do you think sf will deal with that? BM will be found left alone 3 years later and her son will move on with his life
THE REASONS WHY I FEEL THAT PUTTING YOUR MARR IAGE 1ST EQUAL OUT TO MORE HAPPY FAMILIES BECAUSE.....
For one you having 2 adults thats supportive of each other, have each others back, and stand strong the kids will follow.
secondly, when you have 2 parents thats both doing different things how can you expect your children to learn morals, respect and responsibilities.
Last reason is being in a unhappy relationship for what ever reason kids look at it as if my parents cant even get it together why should I. Kids do what they see not hear.
My dh and i try our best to keep our marriage up and moving smoothly for our families sake. We do things together we stand together so we can set by example. Even though I have no bio daughters I do have a sd and I do not do anything that I wouldnt want my lil daughter doing at a certain age. Goes for my dh with our children. I really believe that my dh and I have been standing so strong together and being very supporting and working together on everything that is why bm have not been success on trying to ruin my dh and my sd relationship and my sd relationship as a family with us. My sd sees this as well how where one strong family unit regardless if its not both bio parents. My sd respects me and listens to me very well and im glad for that we started our united front while she was at a young age and now that she is 13 and her mother feeds her with negativity she see that it isnt true because her father,myself or her siblings treat her any different. she does understand that our life still goes on when she is with her mom but we do still love and think about her.